Holiday Sleep? In This Economy?!

A Mamilennials Guide to Surviving December Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Bedtime Routine)

If there’s one thing mamihood has taught us, it’s this: kids don’t know that it’s Christmas (when it comes to sleep). They don't know about that recipe you're trying to get right, or the shopping you need to do to get the perfect gifts. They don't know about that family member you don’t really want to see or the pre-Holiday scramble at work. And they definitely don't know that mami needs to sleep in order to build those core memories.

Because the second December hits? Sleep becomes a suggestion, not a guarantee. So today, we’re sharing our real experiences, the biggest reasons sleep falls apart this time of year, and the gentle shifts that can keep your household somewhat sane. Because even though the holidays are magical, the exhaustion is real!

Thanksgiving weekend was the start of entering sleep survival mode for us. Late bed times, grandma sneaking in some screen time, and babies "conveniently" getting a second wind of energy already has us overstimulated and wondering how we will survive December. Lauren has thankfully done this a few times now, and seems to be a pro at keeping cool, calm and collected while knowing she’ll be putting an overtired baby down to sleep. While Jocelyn is learning to lean into letting grandparents break the rules, she’s still VERY anxious about ruining the sleep schedule she’s worked hard to maintain. As moms who have done this a few times now, every year we take the time to remind ourselves that we're just doing the best we can and it's not going to last forever.

Whether it's your first holiday season with a newborn, you're learning ahead for next season, or your kids are a little older now (been there, done that!).. we wanted to share some quick tips to keep your sanity.

Why Holiday Sleep Is Basically a Myth

1. Overstimulation Is at an All-Time High

Lights everywhere. New sounds. New faces. Family gatherings where your child becomes the center of attention whether they (and you) want it or not. By bedtime, their little nervous systems are super charged and make it extra challenging to get them to wind down easily.

2. The Family Pressure is Real

If you’ve ever tried to explain a sleep schedule to a well-meaning tía, you already know. They look at you like you’re speaking French. They roll their eyes as they guilt trip you for your wanting to stay somewhat on schedule. And before you know it, your child is overstimulated, overtired, and you're just over it.

3. Traveling Throws Everything Off

Traveling with kids is a special category of chaos. From car naps between one set of in-laws to the next, early flights and late arrivals, it's hard to stay on track. Their bodies are like, "Where are we? Who am I? Why are we awake right now?!" Traveling with kids during the holidays ain't for the weak.

4. Routines? Never heard of her. And neither did your tía.

Between gift shopping, hosting, and family obligations, be ready to hear, "no se ve que tenga sueño!" as if you don't know when your own baby is tired. Unfortunately, your usual routine will likely go out the window faster than your child throwing their sippy cup for the 8th time.

The Good News: Holiday Sleep Chaos Is Normal

This is the part mamis forget. Holiday sleep disruption doesn't mean you're failing, you messed up their routine forever, or that you should have done something different. It meant you and your child are human. It means December is overstimulating, and that's ok! You're doing great, and you're not alone.

We're not here to push rigid schedules, we're here to help you survive. So here are 3 gentle tips for better sleep during the Holidays:

1. Keep one consistent sleep anchor

   We've found that keeping at least one consistent sleep anchor helps our littles know that all rules aren't completely out the window. For Jocelyn, this looks like putting on PJ's to signal bedtime (even if bedtime starts in the car). For Lauren, this means cuddles and a story before lights out. For you it could mean making sure they have their favorite stuffie, book, or the portable sound machine to bring some calm.

   
   

2. Try to build in a "quiet window" where you can

   As easy as it is to throw your toddler in front of the TV, or let your kid get passed around while you finish getting things ready, we have seen firsthand that it may take some pressure off in the moment but it could contribute to overstimulation. Try to balance it out with a small quiet window where you can, even if that means hiding in a room to take a quick break and reset. They'll need it as much as you do.

   
   

3. Don't fight the chaos - adjust to it (a.k.a. Let Go and Let God)

   Sometimes the best approach is to ride the wave, and know it's not the end of the world. Remember that naps can be flexible (or on the go), bedtime can shift (and start in the car) and although your people-pleasing self might not like it, you can say no to gatherings that drain you (and use the baby as an excuse). Your peace is part of the holiday magic too.

To Every Mamilennial Reading This…

If you feel exhausted, you’re not alone.

If routines are off, you’re not failing.

You’re creating magic and core memories.

And the sleep? It will regulate again — we promise.

Until then, we’ll be right here with you.

Surviving December together.

Because let's be honest, the Holiday magic wouldn't be possible without the mamis.

Happy Holidays!